Loneliness leaves us feeling empty and unwanted. It makes us feel like we have no one to rely on, and there is no hope for us. The future becomes bleak, and the present is overshadowed by a dark cloud that feels like it's swallowing you up.
Yet the paradox of this feeling is that it's a shared by many people around the world. There are times when we can feel content being completely alone and other days where we feel lonely in large crowds of people. Given everything happening in the world right now, there has been a spike in loneliness. Many are spending most of their days inside the home, alone, due to lockdown and curfews. When the world outside starts to feel grey and the one inside feels chaotic, there are a number of different approaches you can take to soften the impact loneliness has on your mental and physical wellbeing. Remember, you are the creator of your life and the power lies in your hands.
Pay attention to your thoughts
It’s important to realize that loneliness is not a fact, it’s merely a feeling. Although prolonged periods of alone time can certainly induce this state of mind, start to notice the thoughts that are entering your mind, and remember that you are bigger than your thoughts. They don’t define you. In fact, a thought is nothing more than string of words and observation is one of the first steps to combating those sad feelings of loneliness that start to arise. This feeling is temporary, whereas being kind to yourself goes a long way to elevating your energy. Rather than getting bogged down by your mind, practice a mindfulness meditation and pick up a passion project that makes you feel alive and excited about waking up in the morning.
Find new ways to connect
As humans we are social creatures by nature, longing for connection and love. When we are experiencing loneliness, we feel disconnected from everyone around us, believing that we are a solo unit. Loneliness is a widespread issue, and there are millions of people around the world that are looking to connect and share their stories. The Keola community was built on the notion that together we can achieve a lot more, and that is why we want to invite you to join our Facebook Group. Connect with powerful women from around the world and find support, soul connection, and lasting friendships. We are here for you, and we want you to turn all of your dreams into reality.
Pay attention to your needs
All of our emotions and the quality of life that we lead is ultimately determined by our human and personal needs. Tony Robins grouped these needs into six categories: certainty, uncertainty, significance, connection/love, growth and contribution. As people we all value different needs to different degrees, and it is possible that when we are especially lonely, we are not meeting some of our basic needs, such as that of love and connection. You can watch our latest group masterclass session to learn more about human needs and how they shape your reality.
You are not alone
There is comfort in realizing that you are not experiencing feelings of loneliness by yourself. As much as this sounds like a paradox, there are people all over the world feeling exactly what you feel in this given moment in time. Loneliness is more common than you even realize, and once we start sharing this reality with others, we can begin to heal and find the path back to our light.